"Enjoy the process...you mean puberty?" Quote from my son. No, I don't mean puberty but for a 16 year old boy that might be applicable. What I am learning is to enjoy the process in general, whether it is my process towards being like Christ or my art. Oddly enough, until I learned what perfectionism was I didn't think I was a perfectionist and if I did I didn't think it was a bad thing. That was until I learned the difference between perfectionism and a healthy pursuit of excellence. (the following is a loose interpretation from "The Feeling Good Handbook" by David D. Burns)
- I fear failure
- I am never satisfied
- Nothing is good enough
- I find my value in what I do and how well I do it (which I never do good enough so therefore I am never good enough)
- My acceptance by others is based on conditions. I must do this and that and do it well to be accepted by others
- I must be strong and not express my feelings or be vulnerable. If people really knew the real me they wouldn't like me
- Being motivated by enthusiasm and excitement in the process. Finding the creative process exhilarating.
- The effort in the project brings satisfaction and a sense of satisfaction even if it isn't the "greatest" (of course "greatest" as defined by me"
- You enjoy a sense of unconditional self esteem, or you trust the truths of God who truly defines your self worth wrapped up in who he is.
- Not being afraid to fail. Everyone isn't successful all the time. A failure is just an opportunity for growth and learning.
- You're not afraid of being vulnerable or sharing your feelings with people you care about. This makes you feel closer to them.
- The pursuit of excellence includes learning to enjoy the process, which inevitably leads to the surprise outcomes along the way that perfectionism never allows to be enjoyed.